This morning I woke up to an email inviting to me a wedding in March 2020…in Hawaii!!! I was both surprised and excited because this was an old university friend who I had lost contact with for several years. However, thanks to social media, I had a vague idea of what was going on with his life such as his engagement and house purchase.
Back in university, we had talked everyday, sometimes late into the night. We hung out and had so many laughs. I truly loved his company; he was intelligent, funny and I always felt safe disclosing my entire life to him. He was truly a great friend and I always knew he would find his happiness. Flash forward a few years later and he is living in Ottawa with the love of his life. I couldn’t help but send him a message saying how ecstatic I was to be invited to the wedding. But also wanted to ask if the invite was accidentally sent to me ( I am still in shock!!). I mean, how could it have been years since we’ve talked and yet I am still invited to their wedding? He assured me that it was not a mistake and that each invite was carefully selected by him. Reading that really warmed my heart. I always knew our friendship was strong but I didn’t realize how influential we were to each other. If it weren’t for his friendship back in the day, I think I would have had a much harder time processing my emotions. But he showed me that I had a choice to healthily express them outwards. He often shared his own songs with me and they were always raw and honest. I still remember obsessing over our Tumblr accounts, sharing a love for various artists and attending shows together. Looking back, those days were a haze, but I knew I cherished every moment of our friendship. And today, I am so honoured to have been invited to his wedding.
I can’t wait to plan this trip to Hawaii. I admit, it’s quite nerve wracking, to fly to Hawaii alone, and to make all these plans on my own. The thought of it is already overwhelming. Maybe by then, I’ll have a partner who will be willing to join me on this Hawaiian adventure but until then, it is just going to be me and my whimsical spirit.
I feel so blessed to have these rare, humbling and exciting connections with people.